中英美文｜來自哈佛大學的12個人生建議（下）

Be optimistic

要樂觀

For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge,

then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.

對於開心的人來說，玻璃水杯一直是半滿的。每當你面對一個挑戰時，如果你傾向於想象最壞的想法，那就自我轉換這種情況。告訴你自己一個狀況中的好處或者你從中學到的東西。樂觀肯定能驅動成功和幸福感。

Create deeper connections

學會深交

 

Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.

我們的幸福感會在和另一個人的交往中不斷猛增。專註聆聽是加強這種關係紐帶和把幸福感帶給自己和別人的兩個最重要的方面。

Don』t give up.

不要放棄

Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one』s self-esteem. If you』ve made up your mind to do something,

see it through. Don』t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.

沒有完成的方案和不斷的失敗不可避免會削弱你的自尊。如果你決定做某事，做完它。在成功之前都不要放棄。

要記住，失敗是暫時的，打敗的永存的。只有當你放棄的時候，你才會被打敗。

Keep your agreement

守承諾

 

Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we』ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself. Do what you say you』re going to do.

我們的自尊是建立在我們對自己守承諾的情況下。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接關聯。所以要對自己和別人遵守承諾。言出必行。

Meditate

冥想

According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group.

Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.

平均上，上過8次冥想訓練的人要比控制狂多開心20%。

這樣的訓練可以導致大腦結構變化，包括海馬體黑色物質的密度，其對學習和記憶很重要，在結構上和自我意識，同情心和反省。

Focus on what you』re doing

關注你在做的事情

 

When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you』re doing, you』re creating a happiness state – called the 「flow.」

When you』re living in the flow, you』re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!

當你全身心投入一件事的時候，你就會處於一個開心的狀態。當我們處於這種狀態，你就不大會關心別人對你怎麼看，不大會被不大重要的事情干擾。結果呢？更幸福。